“This will be my first Christmas in 31 years with out my husband. He left in April.. I am having a hard time imaging waking up on Christmas morning with out him and all the magic of the holiday. Our wedding anniversary is two days after Christmas. It was always a very special time for us. I am making plans but I know I will be alone on Christmas morning.”…

Darlene, Nov. 12th, 2009

That comment is a real comment from a concerned reader posted on my dear friend, Joanie Winberg, Founder of The National Association for Divorced Women and Children’s blog offering “Five Things Not to Do  After Divorce During the Holidays!”  Do you suppose Darlene is wondering how she is going to handle this whole situation she finds herself in?

I totally believe in the innate ability of women to overcome their emotional and financial challenges with flying colors, but very few of us can or even want to do it on our own. That’s why Darlene or anyone facing similar challenges will find a friend, mentor and powerful resource in Joanie and her universe of sincere, knowledgeable and caring experts!

This is Joanie’s personal experience:

“After my divorce, I not only had to adjust to being a single mom of two children, ages twelve and nine at the time, I also had to learn how to do the once shared to-do list on my own, plus start thinking about a new career.

At times, I felt so overwhelmed and tired with all the new challenges and wondered many times, how I can continue to do it all.

One day, I had a huge wake-up call, when one of my friends said to me, “If you crumble, so will your children.” That’s all I needed to hear. From that day forward, I realized I had to take care of myself and get the support I needed in order to be the best I could be for my children as well as for myself.” 

That was the catalyst that started Joanie on the road, not only to her own personal and professional success, but over the years she has helped so many other women and children do the same!

Which is why, after knowing her and watching her in action over the last couple of years, I am proud to recommend her NEW 12 Week Mentoring Program as an affiliate and as a believer in her ability to get people back on track!

The effects of divorce on an individual are as varied as individuals themselves and the circumstances that lead to the dissolution of their marriages. While there are many negative effects of divorce, there are positive effects too. The choice to end a marriage is deeply personal. Whether the decision to divorce is yours, your spouse’s or a mutual agreement, you have the power to minimize the negative effects and accentuate the positive.

Some of the emotional and physical effects of divorce on an individual are:
Negative
- Fear
- Guilt
- A sense of failure
- Physical exhaustion
- Depression
- Anger
- Separation anxiety
- Weight loss or gain
- Isolation
- A loss of trust
- Poor self-esteem

Positive
- A sense of freedom
- A renewed sense of self worth
- Relief
- Resolution
- Closure
- Safety
- Accomplishment
- A sense of empowerment

The realities of divorce for individuals often include:
- Financial stress
- Relocation
- Separation
- Division of property
- Child care and visitation issues
- Legal issues defining the parameters of a divorce

So…if you find yourself Single Again and are asking yourself …”Now What?”

• Establish a strong support system and maintain it before, during and after a divorce
• Assess and develop the skills necessary to thrive
• Move ahead with Purpose, Vision and Goals

My passion over the last 30 years has been to help women and their families create more freedom and abundance in their lives. I’ve done that by providing access to people and resources that will help them do just that. Joanie Winberg and her Mentoring Program for Single Again Women along with the High 5 Club, of which I am a part, is a great resource for anyone looking for answers to some tough questions, regardless of whether they invest in the program or not.

Several Years ago as a result of my appearance as a contestant in The Next Internet Millionaire Online Virtual Reality Competion, I had the pleasure of meeting online a fabulous , caring woman by the name of Joanie Winberg. She and I hit bit off immediately as a result of our shared passion for helping women and their families.

The byproduct of that experience was that I was determined to create programs for women, by women. Two years ago, that was a bit hard to do, as men were by far the majority of those on the internet.

I’m THRILLED that there are far more women providing important and valuable solutions for women online TODAY!

One of those launches tomorrow, September 9th, 2009 and I’m thrilled to be part of a team of 5 experts coming together to provide solutions and support for Single Women, Single Again Women, Single Moms and Widows!

As a result of the feedback we’ve gotten from thousands of women, especially single moms, if that they don’t have time to spare. We heard them loud and clear, so put together an affordable program that will take only 5 minutes a day, 5 days a week in the convenience of their own homes or offices, that will provide information, advice, tips and resources (as well as free bonuses and a community of like minded women) in 5 major areas of their lives!

It’s cutting edge in delivery…5 minute or less videos wher women will actually get to see and hear each of us as we educate, inspire, motivate and support women who say “Single Again? Now What?

Deatils are below:

  MONDAY: Parenting Strategies with Susan Epstein, Parent Coach

  TUESDAY: Financial Facts with Lisa Decker, Certified Divorce Financial Analyst

   WEDNESDAY: Social Media Savvy with Debbie Ducic, Internet Expert

  THURSDAY: Personal Growth Pathways with Joanie Winberg, Human Behavior Consultant

  FRIDAY: Dating and Soul Mates with Dr. Jenn, Dating Coach

To learn more or sign up to be one of the first, CLICK HERE

How about some support??? Will you give me a “High 5″ to that?